The Emotions Library project is a collection of stories about the emotion(s) we experience. Stories bring meaning and clarity, helping us understand our emotions better. We do this so everyone can access knowledge, gain emotional literacy, and develop self-awareness. Today, we’re exploring a powerful emotional experience that many of us encounter at some point: feeling anxious.
Experiencing anxiety informs us that we are facing something important or uncertain, often tied to our goals, values, or potential challenges. It serves as a signal that we may need to prepare, seek clarity, or address unresolved concerns. Anxiety highlights areas of vulnerability or significance, urging us to focus, take action, or seek support.
By understanding and responding to this emotional cue with curiosity and compassion, we can transform anxiety into a tool for growth, planning, and self-awareness.
Story: Feeling uneasy about the unknown or future events.
Impulse: Worry or prepare.
Etymology: From Latin anxius, meaning troubled or worried.
Purpose: Signals the need for planning and reassurance.
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Reflective Questions
1. What is causing your anxiety?
2. How can you calm yourself?
3. Who can offer support or guidance?
Feeling anxious can be an intense emotional experience, often stirring up a mix of worry and the urge to prepare. But what does it truly mean to feel anxious, and how can we navigate these emotions in a healthy, constructive way? Let’s explore the meaning of anxiety, the impulses it triggers, and how to respond effectively.
Feeling Uneasy About the Unknown or Future Events
Ella paced the length of her living room, her heart pounding like a drum in her chest. The clock on the wall ticked louder than usual, each second a reminder that her interview was only an hour away. She had spent days preparing—practicing her answers, researching the company, and even picking out the perfect outfit. Yet now, as the moment crept closer, an uneasy feeling settled in her stomach.
“What if I freeze up? What if I say the wrong thing?” she muttered, her thoughts spinning into a tornado of what-ifs. The anxious energy gripped her tightly, making her palms sweat and her throat dry.
Ella sat down, closing her eyes to calm the whirlwind inside. She remembered something her friend Clara had told her: Anxiety is your body’s way of telling you that something matters.
This matters, she thought. Of course, I feel nervous. This is important to me.
With a deep breath, she began to untangle her feelings. Was she prepared? Yes. Had she practiced? Absolutely. What was making her anxious now? The unknown—the questions she hadn’t anticipated, the outcome she couldn’t control.
Ella decided to channel her nervous energy into something constructive. She picked up her notebook and reviewed the notes she had written the night before. With each word she read, the storm inside her began to quiet.
When it was time to leave, Ella stood in front of the mirror and gave herself one last pep talk. “You’ve got this. It’s okay to feel nervous—it means you care. Just breathe and focus.”
As she walked into the building, her anxiety was still there, but it no longer felt overwhelming. Instead, it felt like a companion—a reminder that she was stepping into something meaningful.
By the end of the interview, Ella felt proud, not just for her performance but for the way she had faced her anxiety head-on.
Later, as she reflected on the day, she realized that her anxious feelings hadn’t been the enemy. They had been her guide, urging her to prepare, focus, and give her best effort.
Impulse: Worry or Prepare
The natural response to anxiety is often one of two things: worry or preparation.
Worry can feel like a loop of “what-ifs,” where our mind explores worst-case scenarios in an attempt to make sense of the unknown. Although it may seem counterproductive, this response stems from our innate survival instinct. By imagining potential threats, worry tries to prepare us for what might go wrong.
On the other hand, preparation is a more active and constructive way to respond. Anxiety nudges us to take practical steps, such as planning, seeking advice, or rehearsing for a big event. This response transforms the nervous energy of anxiety into focused action, empowering us to address our concerns head-on.
The tension between worry and preparation is natural. Recognizing which impulse dominates in a given situation can help us shift our response toward one that feels more productive and manageable.
The Origins of Anxious
The word “anxious” finds its roots in the Latin term anxius, meaning troubled or worried. The etymology reflects the physical sensations often associated with anxiety—tightness in the chest, shortness of breath, or a feeling of being constricted.
These sensations, while uncomfortable, are part of the body’s stress response, a mechanism designed to heighten our awareness and readiness in the face of perceived threats. Over time, the meaning of “anxious” has expanded to encompass not only physical unease but also the mental and emotional distress tied to uncertainty.
Understanding this linguistic history can deepen our awareness of anxiety as an experience that transcends time and culture—a universal response to life’s challenges and uncertainties.
Purpose: Signals the Need for Planning and Reassurance
Anxiety is not just an emotional hurdle to overcome; it serves a vital purpose in our lives. It’s a signal, like a mental alarm, alerting us to situations that require attention or action.
At its core, anxiety prompts planning. It draws our focus to what matters most and urges us to prepare for potential outcomes. For example, pre-exam jitters might drive you to study harder, while the anxiety of a pending conversation can motivate you to think through your words carefully.
Anxiety also pushes us to seek reassurance—whether from ourselves, trusted individuals, or external resources. It reminds us of our need for connection and support in navigating challenges. By heeding this signal, we can build resilience, strengthen relationships, and find clarity in times of uncertainty.
When approached with curiosity and compassion, anxiety can transform from an obstacle into an ally, helping us to adapt, grow, and thrive in a world full of unknowns.
Emotional Literacy: Understanding Anxiety as a Signal
Developing emotional literacy—the ability to recognize, understand, and express emotions—can transform the way we experience anxiety. Instead of viewing it as an unwelcome intruder, emotional literacy teaches us to see anxiety as a messenger, carrying valuable information about our inner world.
When you feel anxious, your body and mind are trying to tell you something. Your heart races, your stomach churns, and your thoughts spiral because you’re responding to perceived uncertainty or danger. Emotional literacy allows you to pause and ask:
What is this feeling trying to tell me?
What unmet need or unresolved concern lies beneath it?
How can I respond to this feeling with compassion rather than judgment?
By tuning in to the nuances of your anxiety, you gain insight into your triggers, values, and fears. For example:
If you feel anxious before a presentation, it might indicate a desire to succeed and a fear of judgment.
If anxiety arises about a decision, it could signal the importance of the outcome and the need for more information or clarity.
Emotional literacy empowers you to move beyond the discomfort of anxiety and engage with its deeper meaning. It transforms the emotion from a barrier into a bridge—connecting you to greater self-awareness and more intentional action.
Reflective Questions
What is causing your anxiety?
Pause and identify the source of your unease. Is it tied to a specific event or an undefined fear of what might happen? Understanding the root cause can help you confront it more effectively.
Emotional Literacy: Understanding Anxiety as a Signal How can you calm yourself?
Consider techniques that soothe both your mind and body. Breathing exercises, mindfulness practices, or even a short walk can reduce the intensity of your feelings and help you regain focus.
Who can offer support or guidance?
Think about the people in your life who provide comfort and clarity. Whether it’s a friend, family member, or therapist, sharing your feelings can lighten the load and offer new perspectives.
Final Thoughts
If Ella’s experience with feeling anxious resonates with you, consider enhancing your emotional literacy to better understand and navigate moments of uncertainty. Tools like the Emoli Cards can help you recognize and articulate feelings of worry or overwhelm, guiding you through self-reflection and personal growth.
For personalized support, book an Emotions-Based Coaching session. Together, we’ll explore how feeling anxious impacts your emotional landscape and how to use it as an opportunity to develop resilience and clarity while protecting your well-being.
Let’s begin your emotional journey today!
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